The Link Between Depression and Codependency
Codependency and depression go hand in hand — often in the form of low-grade, chronic codependent depression called dysthymia or persistent depressive disorder.
Codependency is a dysfunctional, unequal relationship. Whether with a romantic partner or in the context of family, one person is constantly sacrificing their own needs and feelings and prioritizing someone else’s desires. Codependency is a very common theme in relationships involving addiction.
This can look like:
- Control: Needing others to do certain things or act a certain way
- Low self-esteem: Deep-down feelings of inadequacy and shame
- Defensiveness: Internalizing others’ opinions
- Communication problems: Manipulating instead of being honest with others
If you’re in a codependent relationship, you may struggle with the persistent sadness and feelings of worthlessness that characterize depression. You might be very unhappy with the unhealthy relationship dynamic but feel trapped and unable to do anything about it. This is because poor personal boundaries and your sense of responsibility for your partner’s feelings and actions can cause you to feel too guilty to leave.